About me

I am a Mother, Possibilitator and Cultural Midwife, assisting the birth of the next culture; Archiarchy, where initiated adult Women collaborate with initiated adult Men. I take my next steps for healing and feeling. In this way, I can break the cycle of generations and create the spaciousness within myself, necessary to allow children to unfold their beings. I hold space for children to feel and empower them to learn the skills of negotiation.

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I graduated from The University of Edinburgh, Scotland, with an MSc from the School of Social and Political Science in 'Global Environment, Politics and Society.'

Even though I had sworn not to go back to writing essays, which had been an excruciating process for me during my BA (French Studies), something about doing this particular degree was beyond that - it was a full body YES, I have to do this!

The intensity increased in the final countdown to finishing my dissertation: I conducted interviews for the case study I was conducting about plastic food packaging, I started reading a book called 'Island' by Aldous Huxley which was resonating with how I wanted to be living and expanding my box. I was going through a major liquid state about writing and putting together 15,000 words and discovering ways of living which were awakening something in me and then it came to writing the conclusion of my dissertation...

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I was disillusioned by the responses I received from my interviews which summed up to passing the responsibility over to someone else and blaming others for current problems...

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It was during this writing that I had an epiphany. A full body experience, I felt it drop in through the crown of my head and wash down the rest of my body as tingles: The best thing I could do right now was to change myself and my inner landscape by taking more responsibility and not try to fix something that was happening externally in the outside world. In other words, my best hope of having any influence or inspiring others was to 'become the change I wanted to see in the world' (Ghandi).

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“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Rumi

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This was such a powerful moment for me. A jaw-dropping realisation that had me deciding to take my personal yoga practise further and become an instructor.

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Part of the potency of this moment was in the paradox that I would not be directly using the MSc, and that I had done it for a different purpose, and that it was leading me elsewhere.

I stuck with my plans to travel for 6 months, heading for New Zealand. 

A new chapter of my life began on arrival, in Dunedin. Synchronicities started ramping up and the general message I was getting was to follow my heart and intuition.

Then when I made it to Golden Bay, about half a year later, synchronicities started happening even more frequently. I sensed that this is where I wanted to stay, at least for now (back in 2019). This is also where I met the father of my daughter, Elliot, at the Community Gardens (now Sustainable Living Centre), shortly after arriving.

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Together, we met sorceress and village weaver Janet Redmond who told us we had to participate in an Expand The Box Training (ETB). We did so and attended our first ETB with transformation trainer queen Ana Norambuena in 2020.

I remember saying once to a relative in Egypt that I knew there was a connection between emotions and the current state of the world and I was going to find it. The ETB just delivered me the link. It gathered some key threads of my past and merged them under one umbrella. The training was another series of 'aha' moments for me. And so Possibility Management became a path for me to follow and I committed to attending further trainings and to share this work with others.

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I organised ETBs, attended LABs (the training that an ETB qualifies you to attend), participated in an intensive Emotional Healing Process Team, attended Trainer Skills days, joined the Possibilitator Training calls and started training as a Possibility Coach.

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Then in 2022, before my daughter was born, I removed myself from these spaces in order to hold space for my journey into Motherhood.

Evelyn Irene was born under the Wainui Stars at Tui Community. After going through a lot of pain about the nuclear family model and wanting to experience something different, I started experimenting and our family moved to Pohara with 3 other adults. It was clear that children were missing from the equation and we later embarked on another experiment with another family of four at 'Cherry Tree Highway.' Among our purposes was to see how it goes to become one family, share resources, be on each others team and share spaceholding of the children, aged 2, 2 and 4. This experiment allowed me to start opening back up to this work and offering my value as a spaceholder for coaching and EHPs, specialising in miscarriage, pregnancy, freebirth, parenting and anger work. 

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At the end of 2024, Elliot and I embarked on a 3 month experiment living separately and co-parenting. We then decided in early 2025 to formally separate and are still experimenting how this goes whilst co-parenting and spending time together as a family.

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I am still experimenting with other ways of living and parenting and will soon embrace another member of the co-parenting journey into the mix, Annika Korsten, who is on her own journey to become pregnant.

I am still also in collaboration with the family we used to live with and we will start researching how it goes to start a children's learning centre together and are also looking at living together once again.

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